When Dave and I got married, I never made the girls call me "mom". If they chose to, that was okay, but I was not going to force the issue. When we got custody of them, they had already been calling me Angie for so long, it just stuck. They introduced me to their friends as "mom" but called me Angie when they needed me.
The title of "mom" was implied in "Angie", and that is okay with me. What matters is my relationship with them. I have never considered them less than my daughters. When people ask me how many kids I have, I tell them 3. I sometimes need to clarify my position when they ask me how old my kids are (thankfully I look too young to have a daughter that will be 21 in November). But overall, they are just my girls, and I am just their mom.
Mom means that there is some one to go to when you need a hug, or advice. Mom cleans your house, does your laundry, makes you cookies. Mom is there when you get sick, teaches you how to take care of yurself, watches your grades, grounds you when you break a rule. Mom puts you above her, sacrifices so that you can have more, loves you even when you hate her. Mom knows that sometimes she has to teach you the hard lessons, that you will thank her when you have your own kids. Mom loves you, unconditionally, totally, always, no matter what.
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